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Gut Instincts You Shouldn’t Ignore

The quirky urge; A funny tingle, or the little voice in your head. These are your gut feelings talking. But what are they telling you, and should you listen to them? Here’s how to make the most of your own innate wisdom.

Most of us have experienced the sense of knowing things before we know them;

even if we can’t explain how. You hesitate at a green light and miss

getting hit by a speeding truck;  or you decide on a whim to break your no-blind-dates policy and wind up meeting your future spouse. You have a hunch that you should invest in a little online startup and it becomes Google (I didn’t have that one 🙂 ).

If only you could tap into those insights more often, right? Turns out you can, especially if you learn to identify which signals to focus on. You could have sweaty palms, a funny feeling in your stomach, or a sudden and inexplicable certainty that something is up, or that something is about to happen.

According to many researchers, your intuition is far more material than it seems.

Hope College social psychologist David Myers, PhD, explains that your

intuitive right brain is almost always “reading” your surroundings, even when your conscious left brain is doing something else. Your body can register information while your conscious mind remains blissfully unaware of what’s going on around you.

Another theory suggests you can “feel” approaching events specifically because of your dopamine neurons. “The jitters of dopamine helps keep track of reality, alerting us to subtle patterns that we can’t consciously detect,” Jonah Lehrer, author of How We Decide notes.

So how do you choose which gut feelings to trust?

Judith Orloff, PhD, an intuitive psychiatrist and author of Second Sight, suggests that it’s a matter of “combining your linear mind and intuition,” and striking a balance between your gut instinct and your rational thinking. Once you’ve noticed an intuitive hit, she says, you can engage your rational mind to weigh your choices and decide how to act on them.

To that end, here are 5 gut feelings that  experts recommend you pay attention to — and some reasons why you’ll be glad you did.

1. “Something feels wrong in my body.“

Listening to your body’s subtle signals is a critical part of exercising your intuitive sense, says Orloff, who also trains UCLA medical students and psychiatric residents to use their intuition when treating patients.

“Your body is a powerful intuitive communicator,” she explains in Second 

Sight.  “Intuition allows you to get your first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can deal with it. If you have a gut feeling about your body;  that something is toxic, weak or ‘off’,  you should listen to it. You should go and check it out.” She’s seen too many people ignore their sense that something isn’t right with their bodies, and subsequently find that their small problems have become big ones.

Physical symptoms can also have symbolic value.

“If you’re around somebody and your energy goes down, that’s an

intuition not to ignore,” Orloff says. Sudden sleepiness can mean that you’re in the presence of an energy-draining person or circumstance; it can be your body’s way of communicating that these conditions are taking more energy from you than they give back. If you stay in a situation that makes you feel depleted (like your taking a job after you left the interview feeling exhausted), it can easily lead to a situation where you become depressed, anxious and stuck.

Ronald A. Alexander, PhD, a psychologist, and director of the Open Mind

Training Institute in Santa Monica, Calif., also recommends you pay close attention to any sudden physical sensations you experience during the course of an interaction. He tells a story of traveling in India where he decided not to get in a cab because of a “burning sensation” in his gut, and he later saw the driver being arrested in the train station for suspected robbery. He says he typically feels intuitions in his chest or his stomach; the latter is relatively common given that your intestines house your enteric nervous system, sometimes called the “second brain.”

2. “I‘m in danger.“

The feeling you get about a person in the first 10 seconds expresses an “ancient biological wisdom,” says Myers in his book Intuition: Its Powers and Perils. Early humans who could speedily detect whether a stranger was friend or foe were more likely to survive,  and they would create descendents who were able to read emotional signals in another person’s face almost instantly.

Of course, the human capacity to judge can go wrong, as it did in the 1999 fatal police shooting of Amadou Diallo in New York City. Police fired when they thought the young man was reaching for a weapon, but he was actually unarmed and digging in his pocket for his identification.

Because your social conditioning helps to create your unconscious beliefs,

and these beliefs can produce your first impressions and snap decisions

that are utterly flawed, it’s important to check your gut feelings against your rational mind whenever possible. And there are simple ways you can attend to what feels like a warning signal in the short term, she says.

“If you don’t trust somebody, even if it turns out to be wrong, it is something to pay attention to,” she explains. “If you’re walking down the street at night and you get the feeling ‘stay away from that person,’ just cross the street.”

3. “I want to help.“

While you might think of your gut instincts as something you’ve

maintained mostly to avoid danger, the human species has evolved an equally powerful capacity to sense when others need support. “Sympathy is one of humanity’s most basic instincts, which is why evolution lavished so much attention on the parts of your brain that help you think about what others are feeling,” notes Lehrer.

Since evolution has made you a quick read of other faces and their emotional signals, you don’t always need to wait for a verbalized cue before you reach out. The sympathy instinct nudges you to change the subject when wedding talk makes a newly divorced friend cringe, or to start up a conversation with a nervous seatmate during an airplane landing;  subtle gestures you make, can be a big difference in someone’s day. The capacity to empathetically identify with others can even be what compels you to donate money after a natural disaster. Studies of humanitarian relief efforts show that people are markedly more compelled to give after seeing a photo of a person in need than after reading statistics about damage.

Finally, this ability to “read” other faces

isn’t just good for those you help. One recent brain-imaging study suggests your generosity makes the pleasure centers in your brain light up.  When participants were given $128 of hard cash along with the choice to keep it or donate it to charity, the reward centers of those who chose to donate went wild.

Multiple studies have also shown a phenomenon known as the “helper’s high,” which causes individuals aiding others to experience improvements in their mood, immunity and overall well-being. That’s why following your instincts for sympathy and generosity generally turns out to be a good investment in your own health and happiness, too.

4. “I know how to do this.”

Basketball announcers can be merciless when otherwise talented players choke at the free-throw line, but most of us can identify with the player’s

sense of panic. You might have a well-developed yoga practice with one pose that still stumps you. Or maybe you’re a great driver who forgets how to parallel park whenever your intimidating sister-in-law is in your car. Or you’re a great cook who botches your favorite dish each time you make it for guests. In situations like these, the can-do instinct you’ve developed through years of experience is being drowned out by an onslaught of your overthinking.

“Choking [among athletes] is a vivid example of the havoc that can be caused by too much thought,” Lehrer points out. “Such deliberate thought processes interfere with the trained movements of their muscles.”

He cites a study at the University of Chicago showing that, while novice golfers did better when they thought carefully about their putts, the performance of more experienced golfers got much worse when they reflected on what they were doing.

Rational thought served the beginners,

it turned out, because they were still developing muscle memory and technique. But for players who were more experienced, instinct naturally took over — and did a better job. Overriding instincts and neural patterning in favor of their logical thought absolutely destroyed their performance.

“Once you’ve developed expertise in a particular area, once you’ve made

the requisite mistakes — it’s important to trust your emotions when you make decisions in that area,” Lehrer insists. If you know you can do it, trust your gut — not your head.

Next time you’re tempted to think too much about something you know how to do, try a little therapeutic distraction. Say the alphabet backward when your yoga teacher orders you into the dreaded handstand, or sing a favorite song to yourself at the free-throw line. Briefly engaging your conscious mind with something other than the task at hand can leave your instincts free to do their job, and free you to enjoy the satisfaction all that practice has made possible for you.

5. “This is it!“

When your intuition says you’ve found something or someone truly right for you, the choice often becomes easy. “It feels healthy; it feels good; it doesn’t feel like you’re forcing it, there’s no conflict.”

Lehrer agrees that when you’re poised to make a big decision with lasting repercussions, like choosing your life partner, you’re best off deciding from your gut. Based on the bulk of his research into your cognitive  decision-making, he actually recommends that you “think less about those choices that you care a lot about.”

The rational mind is really suited only to limited concrete choices,

like deciding between two brands of car insurance. In situations where

there are a couple of factors involved, your prefrontal cortex can weigh the rewards of each and produce an excellent result. But there are so many factors involved in a complex decision like, say, buying a house, that the limited space in your prefrontal cortex gets overwhelmed. In that state, it becomes the wrong part of your brain for the job.

Several studies support the wisdom of emotional

decision-making in the realm of big choices. In one study, Dutch researchers shadowed shoppers at IKEA, observing their shopping habits. Later interviews indicated that those who spent less time making their choices ended up more satisfied overall. Choosing a couch and choosing a spouse are definitely different acts, but both tend to provoke the kind of agonized overthinking that leads to your poor choices. Using your intuitive brain in these situations, on the other hand, will almost always point you toward a lasting fulfillment.

Of all the reasons to use your gut instincts

to make your big decisions, this may be the best: It leads to your choices that are most satisfying;  decisions that can improve the quality of your life.

“It allows you to find relationships that resonate for you, instead of what looks good on paper,” Orloff says. “It allows you to connect with people on a heart level, it allows you to deeply experience life instead of just letting it wash over you, and it allows you to be really smart about how you make your decisions.”

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I found this to be very interesting as I’ve had “gut instincts” throughout my life. Sometimes I listened and at other times, I didn’t. Many years ago, I was returning home from Mexico City, when I got the feeling that I shouldn’t get on the plane. I ignored the feeling and flew home. The plane ride was fine, so I stopped thinking about my feelings, but on the taxi ride home, we had an accident. No one was injured, but that was probably what those “gut instincts” were about. I’ve always remembered that experience with clarity. It proved to me that there are more to these feelings we get, than we think…

Have a great day!